Tip One:
Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you.

Tip Two:
Achieving balance is a continuous process of developing the conditions in which the human spirit thrives.

Tip Three:
Happiness depends upon our attitude. This is something we can choose, something which is within our power to influence.

Tip Four:
When change outside of your control is negatively impacting your life, focus and act on the things you can influence. This can keep you empowered and reduces the stress that such change can engender.

Tip Five:
Do you ever feel unbelievably stressed and out of control, when something unforeseen happens and you drop all the balls you were trying to juggle? At these times, even the most flexible people can become more controlling. They try to control the people around them becoming evermore critical and demanding. The key is to take charge of ourselves not of those around us. To break the behaviour patterns that bind us.

Start by spending at least 5 minutes a day breathing deeply in the fresh air, taking in nature, bringing your values to the fore. Give your body and mind a break from stress by stopping the negative self talk and cultivating inner peace

Tip Six:
The daily practice of focusing on our breathing begins the healthful calm - deeply breath in calm, breath out and relax.

Tip Seven:
Focus on the moment as often as possible. Mindfulness of the present, savouring the moment is truly living life.

Really taste the food you eat.
Hold a hug just a little longer.
Marvel in the colour of the sky.
Listen intently to the words 'I love you'.
Enjoy the little things that people do for you.
Stop to say thank you.

A great saying...
"Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it; Boldness has genius, power and magic in it." -- Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe, from Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breathnach (Warner Books).

Tip Eight:
Loving others begins with the practice of love of self - giving ourselves time to care for our physical and emotional health, reflecting on our values.

"Time" by Marla Visser...
If I had a summer
to give you, my mutilated psyche,
maybe you could heal into oneness.
But always there are the things
That pull me apart,
chewing up my ego,
possessing my time and leaving me
with one small question.
When do I get to be me?

Tip Nine:
Achieving balance means focusing on what you value in life.

So much precious time and energy can be wasted dwelling on the negative. Go through each day consciously. Stop the thoughts and actions that prevent you getting to where you want to go. Give your goals the positive affirmations they need to succeed.

Tip Ten:
You can only achieve your goals by taking action!

Start by writing a plan for what you want to achieve and how you are going to do it! Think about the various areas of your life - relationships, work, health and so on. What are your goals in each of these areas and what are you going to do each day, week or month to ensure you will achieve them? Put the actions in your diary or where you will see your plan daily. Regularly visualise yourself achieving your goals. Begin with readily achievable goals. Celebrate each success and build on each success to achieve your long term plans.

"it is only with infinitesimal change, changes so small that no one else even realises you're making them, that you have any hope for transformation." -- Tolstoy

Tip Eleven:
Achieving balance is a courageous process. As we begin to move into balance, the tension we feel or barriers we face may make us want to give up. Even the smallest change can create fear in ourselves or in others, wanting us to flee back to the safety of the familiar. But moving forward, finding the courage to continue the process, leads to the higher balance - toward achieving our human potential.

Great sayings:
"Man's main task in life is to give birth to himself" - Erich Fromm
"It is as hard to see one's self as to look backwards without turning around" - Thoreau
"The energy of our differences can produce a precious gift we could never have experienced alone" - Thomas Crum
"When we shed the burden of judgment, we quiet the turbulence of our internal dialogue" - Deepak Chopra

Tip Twelve:
Life balance is the pursuit of our potential - physical, intellectual, emotional and spiritual.

Tip Thirteen:
Time is our most precious commodity, not the material things we constantly strive to gain. Giving time to ourselves is vital for physical and emotional health. Giving time to others, doing what they enjoy, is vital to the health of our relationships.

Tip Fourteen:
As the song goes "You've got to have friends". Cherish and treasure your friendships. The more you nurture your friendships the deeper and more supportive they become.

Our personal life coaching sessions can give you the breakthroughs, insights, motivation and strategies you need to achieve the life you want.
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